Growing up, it was mortifying to be called fat. This super pale face would instantly turn tomato red with embarrassment and anger. To have everything you do, good or bad, always tied to being fat. If you missed that catch while playing baseball in elementary school, you’re “such a fat loser.” If you get the teacher’s question wrong, you hear “fat idiot” under someone’s breathe. If you get a compliment, it’s almost always along the lines of “You have SUCH a pretty face, if only….” If you slip on ice, you hear the loud laughter about how the “fat chick can’t even walk or keep her balance.” If you hurry across the street to beat the light, a car honks and the driver yells “get your lazy fat ass out of the way!”
I’ve grown a lot since elementary school, but these kind of comments continued through high school, tampered down in college, and then ramped back up during post-college employment. Like most other fat girls, I constantly yo-yoed with my weight, but I was never what most would call average-sized, thin, or slender, so I saw almost the full spectrum of fat comments. All of the above were actually experienced by me. In these cases, my awesome memory is not such a great thing to have.
So you must be asking why would I then go and create Fat Girl Reviews, why not Plus-Sized Reviews or something along those lines. Maybe even a socially acceptable name such as Curvy Girl Reviews? Well, because like I said…I’ve grown up a lot since elementary school. Not only have I gotten a stronger handle on myself, I also now understand what the word fat really means. Everyone has fat and if you are called fat because you have fat, then everyone is fat. What most really mean by calling you fat is that you have more fat than the supposed average, more fat than is socially acceptable, and that you yourself caused this “horrible” state you are in and therefore, you don’t deserve respect, love, attraction, consideration, kindness, or the benefit of the doubt. Well, as many of my friends and family know, I am a big proponent of using words correctly. It’s just part of my nature. If you look up the definition of the word fat in Merriam-Webster, the top three definitions are:
- notable for having an unusual amount of fat
- well filled out
- richly rewarding or profitable
I don’t see any of the above as a negative! Most may still take issue with the first definition, but it’s because they don’t quite get it yet…When selecting peaches at the grocery store, do you only reach for the smaller peaches? Of course not! There are smaller ones that might be a bit more tart and firm, yum yum yum! Then there are also larger softer ones that will be incredibly juicy and tender. How is either a loss? They are both yummy, they are just two types of yummy.
Ok, ok, I know that it’s not all as simple as picking out different kinds of tasty peaches. But it should be.
-LanaBare @ Fat Girl Reviews